I’m Rebecca, and I’m a sex and relationship therapist practicing in Newcastle upon Tyne. If you’re thinking about starting therapy at the moment, welcome. Finding the right therapist for yourself, or yourself and a partner is an important step, and I hope you’ll be able to find the answers you need here.
My role as a sex therapist is to help you identify your sexually authentic self; the way you feel about sex, and the relationship you want to have with sex. I can help you process the past experiences that are affecting you, and move towards the kind of relationship you want with sex in the present.
As a relationship therapist, (sometimes known as intimate partner therapist or couple therapist) my role is to help people connect with each other. In therapy, I help individuals improve their emotional, romantic and sexual intimacy through tools, exercises and above all, communication. I believe relationships can thrive when each person gives them the time and attention that they need, regardless of whether the relationship is a romantic, platonic or co-parenting one.
I am a neurodiversity affirming therapist, and ensure that whether you’re working with me in sex therapy or relationship therapy, there is space for your full and authentic self. Neurodivergent clients deserve therapy which works with their brains, rather than against them. In my practice, this means that we find resources, exercises and ways of relating to each other that work for you.
My specialisms are non-monogamy, gender, sexuality and kink. I use the umbrella term GSRD to describe this, which stands for gender, sexuality and relationship diversity.
Non-monogamy
I am a non-monogamy affirming therapist. I often work with clients who are thinking about, negotiating or transitioning into a non-monogamous relationship. This could include polyamory, open relationships, swinging, triads, and other alternative relationship structures. I help clients and couples to identify what they want from a relationship, how to manage conflict and how to communicate in a healthy way. I also work with couples with differing relationship orientations.
Sexuality and gender
As a sex therapist, much of my work involves talking to clients about their sexuality, and their gender identity. With clients who are struggling with their sexuality, work will often include education around sexual orientation, as well as talking about their relationship to sex, attraction, desire and arousal. For clients thinking about their gender identity, work will often include education about gender, as well as trans, non-binary, fluid and non-conforming identities. We discuss their understanding of themselves, and what gender means to them.
Kink, fetish and BDSM
I am a kink-positive therapist. I often work with clients who are struggling to accept part of their sexual (or non-sexual) identity, and are experiencing shame around a kink or fetish, as well as clients who are attempting to explore or negotiate a kink or fetish with a partner. This can often include education around kink practices, as well as normalising kinks and fetishes for clients and couples. Most importantly, this work often includes communication; helping clients to openly communicate with themselves, and partners about their likes and dislikes.
If you’d like to find out more about my service and whether I could be the right therapist for you, please use my contact form to book a free 15 minute phone consultation. This can be an opportunity for you to get to know me a little more, and discuss what you’re going through at the moment. There is no obligation to begin therapy with me afterwards.
I hope to hear from you soon.
